New custom, San Clemente Surfboards & Art by Paul Carter
I have been shaping surfboard since 1993. This board is an evolution on the abstract art design when I started painting in 1988 and as a business in 2000.
This board reminds me of the importance of staying present with gratitude for my family and friends. I’m reminded of the importance of facing one’s fears, not running from them..
We all have a past of heartache and experiences in relationships. It takes work to clean house on the conditioning.
We all have a story, and I know I have my own with loss of loved ones and friends. I am grateful and thankful I am not a drug addict or an alcoholic. I cannot imagine going through an unhealthy relationship and being codependent on alcohol and drugs to try and escape the situation..
Coming from a large family I have learned a lot on personalities and egos and insecurities. I have learned to read these patterns with the people I come in contact with..
For many it’s religion for others it’s ideology and for those that know God without all the worldly rules, that’s a healthy relationship not religion.
What is your perception of the words? Know thyself?
It is a difficult position to be in a place of seeing the big picture with someone knowing you can help them. At the same time knowing you have to let them go. They have to learn without you and it’s not my responsibility to try and help someone who is unwilling to help themselves and take responsibility and accountability for their choices.
It has taken me hundreds of hours to learn how to Handshaped Surfboards. It’s taking me many years to learn by doing the work, mentally, spiritually, physically. The discipline to learn how to hand shape and learn how to build confidence in oneself takes consistent daily discipline. Do you know the difference between ego and confidence?. Ego is simply the need for validation.
Confidence is the freedom for no longer needing validation from anyone. We all get inspired daily which is empowering. We have to choose the positive or the negative we want to create in one’s life.
Building a trusting, friendship or relationships takes consistent commitment from each person to build a trusting foundation. If that foundation is broken on a monthly basis, you have to ask yourself is this a two-way street or a one-way street? I am reminded how powerful the heart is. It is more powerful than the brain. It is important to stay present and aware with healthy priorities, and have very strong boundaries.
I am reminded to not let things slide when it comes to building a trusting healthy communication and a mutual respect.
Healthy choices create a healthy lifestyle.
